New year New resolutions!
How many of you have a long list of resolutions this year?
Kuddos to you! Here is your reward.
Let’s call that list of your master to-do list for this year.
New year also means that not only do you commit to accomplishing new goals but you also vow to drop some bad habits. I call it the stop-doing list for a healthier and happier life.
Are you looking to drop bad habits ?Good! Me too.
And to inspire you here is my list of 5 Bad Habits That Are Making You Unhappy And How To End Them.
Thou Shalt Not Procrastinate
There are probably 5 things you have been meaning to do but you still haven’t got around to it yet.
How many times have you caught yourself putting off impending tasks to later much later? If you are like me more often than you can admit.
Procrastination is the action of delaying or postponing something. The harder or less enjoyable the task the more time we take to complete it. Sometimes we even end up not doing it at all.
It is a mentality that applies to many areas in our lives: work, house, relationships, health.
Procrastination is a one of the 5 Bad Habits That Are Making You Unhappy. It can be changed but requires time, dedication and some sneaky ways of tricking your brain.
Here are a few ideas.
- Lock yourself in a room with the thing you need to do with nothing else than the bare essential tools to get it done. (No phone, no internet…).
- There might be a part of that task you enjoy doing, think about it to spark a bit of excitement.
- Think about the end result and how you will feel once the task is complete. A vision board can give you the motivation you need to get started.
- Divide it into small tasks and go step by step.
- Take 10 minutes before starting the task. Go for a walk, take a bath, listen to music something that you really like and get you going. For example, I find cleaning the house, doing research and writing a chapter a lot more enjoyable with my favorite music on.
- Or let me be mean here … just do it already!
Thou Shalt Never Think or Say Anything Negative
Sometimes, without even knowing it we have a negative attitude towards yourself and others. We find excuses telling ourselves that we are just being realistic and telling the things the way they are.
No! It is all about the way you choose to see it.
Adopt positive thinking. Have a mental and emotional attitude that focuses on the bright side of life and always expects positive results. I will go even further and say focus on the best side of yourself and others .
And it doesn’t stop there. Often we don’t keep those negative thoughts or opinions of others to ourselves. If you can’t help thinking bad of someone just don’t say it to her face.
People treat you the way you treat them. Treat them the way you want to be treated. Hold that tongue.
Call it whatever you want. But it works! Seriously!
Thou Shalt Always Write It Down
If you rely on your memory alone to remember every task, be prepared to forget something important.
The best way to avoid chaos is to keep track of what you are doing, when and how you are spending your time.
Having a plan is really the only way to maximize efficiency.
Same goes for ideas. I don’t know about you but I always get the best ideas at random times. If I fail to write it down right away, 9 times out of ten I end up forgetting.
Get in the habit of writing it down as soon as you can on the spot preferably.
Now don’t just stop at writing it make it happen (end procrastination).
I love lists, journals, and notebooks. Last year only I might have bought at least 10 Notebooks, 3 journals.Let me tell you it was a real mess!
So this year I decided to only get:
- 1 journal
- A few post-its
- A little notebook (just one for real this time)
- A task-tracking app so I can see and update my to-do list on the go
- And a vision board!
Thou Shalt Not Over Complicate Everything
Feeling overwhelmed, ready to throw the towel and walk out the door?If you relate to that,there is a good chance you are over complicating your life.
Whenever there is too much to do, very little time and especially a toddler that sucks the energy out of me, panic sets in. I often tell my family jokingly I am moving to Hawaii and never coming back.But I know the only way to steer clear from stress and panic is changing the way I handle some situations.
Resist the impulse to over complicate..no matter what.
I find that living a simple purposeful life means establishing priorities, eliminating actions that don’t provide value, reducing distractions, delegating, and automating some areas in your life.
For example scrolling your feed for hours, binge watching a TV show (sorry but it is true), in my case reading 3 romance novels a day (psst don’t tell anyone that’s my secret).
Thou Shalt Always Be Prepared For The Unknown
There are so many things that are out of our control. A flat tire on your way to a job interview, a sick kid.
Don’t let hardship break your spirit. Always be prepared for the unknown and find the best way to deal with it.
Even though some events aren’t under our control and can’t be avoided, the way they impact our lives is completely up to you. You are in charge of your attitude. You cannot change what is inevitable but you can choose what attitude to embrace.
We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.
Barbara de Angelis
A few ideas…
- Do not panic and make rushed decisions.
- Meditate often.
- Believe in yourself and your abilities.
Enjoyed my 5 Bad Habits That Are Making You Unhappy And How To End Them or didn’t? Either way I would love to hear your opinion. Feel free to share your stop-doing list below in the comment section or reach out on social media.